When I got married, I knew I wanted to extend love passed just my husband and raise children of our own. Now that we have a son, I am so in awe of how much the heart is able to stretch. Not a whoops what happened to my favourite jeans stretch- a real one size fits all leggings type of stretch and it’s amazing. It’s amazing to see how at one point loving my husband seemed like a challenge and then here comes a little human and without much effort at all- an overwhelming and unconditional love is birthed.
Now that he is here, I am well aware of the obvious, things have changed. The dynamic of my relationship with my husband isn’t the same and for a while it felt like there was a gap. Like Landon had somehow became a wedge in between us rather than a bridge.
We co-sleep, so Landon is literally in the middle of us each night but it shouldn’t FEEL like he’s in the middle of something we built when he wasn’t even a thought.
My marriage is very important to me, not because it’s mine, but because of who orchestrated it. Matthew 19:4-6 says;
4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
I truly believe that marriage is something sacred and should be cared for, maintained and nourished. Over the last few weeks I’ve been taking a step back, enjoying the growth of Landon but also analyzing the growth that I have had and how it has affected my marriage. Motherhood is a title I am so proud to have obtained but wife came first. So now that my new title is given most attention by others, it doesn’t mean my original title should be neglected and nor should the person I have stepped into a life-long commitment with either.
The moral of the story, the reason for the post, the thought behind the message- just remember your other half and love them hard.